The "Common Sense" of Dating

It has been 2 months since I posted last. There are no excuses, I just ran out of ideas to write about and could not come up with anything good to say.

I did a little research, worked on some new ideas for blogging, and began to flesh out this theme.

Writing about how to pick up girls is great, but it is the arguing and debate I really love! 

Don’t get me wrong, chicks are hot, but the debate strategy  is something I wish to involve myself in more as well. 

So the blogging I have done about girls will continue, and the new blogging will fly.

I’m thinkin of something that is somewhat akin to debate mastery. Think about it in the terms of Scott Pilgrim. Those were kids who would street fight their way through everyday drama and problems. Everyday each “fighter” gets better. 

I want to be the Master of this fighting style. It’ll be like I’m Vegan but i’ll still be eating meat.

Here’s a good trick. When doing anything, like reading a book, going for a walk, sitting under a tree, drinking a beer, leaning against a wall, playing pool, playing ping pong, playing pool pong (cause you share a ping pong table and it’s taken but no one is playing pool) whatever. If you make eye contact with a girl, don’t look away. Hold her gaze for a second, and then smirk a little. If she then smiles back, smile bigger this time, then after a pause, go back to your smirk, give a little nod, and go back to whatever you were doing.

I want to make some pun here like “He couldn’t break the 2nd wall” but instead, just              take it as a warning; Pony Tails are hot, you could distract someone.

  It’s a very attractive thing to do because it shows self confidence. Normally, people will make eye contact and glance away. Why would you glance away anyhow? Because it’s awkward? What is awkwardness but the impression that something else should be occurring during the moment. An awkward silence, people “break” by talking. An awkward topic people change the subject. The eye contact feels awkward because it is unusual to openly give your attention to a stranger.

 Often, girls will look at you, look away, and the look back. This makes a perfect time then to laugh, because its fucking funny. If I think they are cute, I go and introduce myself to girls who go through this. You should try it too.

I say something like “Hi! I’m Jared, you totally got scared when we made eye contact. First time out in the real world?”

  Be like the guys in wedding crashers when they were looking for girls in that first church scene. It’s kind of like when girl in the white hat “Eye fucked” Vince Vaughn.

 Eye contact is really powerful. And doing this technique will get you used to maintaining it. And maintaining eye contact conveys confidence, interest, and makes the person you are looking at feel more important. It can even seem somewhat intimidating to a girl (or anyone really) because it’s conveying your full attention to her.

 Alright,

Seeya later Grasshopper

 Jared

Sorry for the break guys, Skyrim has a way with taking up the things you love to do :).

 I want to work on body language today.

 First, the mentality. Body language is huge, we all express it, and lots of it is subconscious. Remember, 60% of what we say is conveyed through body language, 30% in tone of voice, and 10% by what we say. So when you are sitting across from that bombshell and you see her doing these various things, trust yourself that these mean business. Trust that she is giving off readable signals.

 When you just catch one of these indicators, fantastic! Good job dude! Remember it’s not just one indicator and you know what she thinking. It’s the whole mess of indicators in their combined form that let you know how the sheis feeling.

Knowing this body language stuff is fantastic because it helps you tailor your actions to individual you are talking too. You can tell if she’s lying, if she’s having a good time, and if she really likes you but doesn’t know how to show it. Remember we all want the person we like to find us and say how much we like them. This comes out in our body language, trying to tell the person that we are interested.

It happens all the time, and girls are HATING how terrible guys are at picking up these signs.

Everybody expresses themselves in different ways, so if you get confused that’s totally cool. This takes practice.  If you need more practice, people watch with a girl at a restaurant, and ask her what’s going on. Things like, “is that girl having a good time?” and point out a couple. Your friends answers could surprise you. You can do this alone as well, and you will learn from it, but it will go faster with a girl or someone who knows body language well. Girls are really good at this so most should work.

Here’s a few things to look for to get started. Where is he/she looking, what is he/she doing with his/her hands. Are they wringing them, are they holding eachothers, are they palm up or palm down? Focus on everything, from head to toe. Foot placement is an indicator of attraction as well, everything can be an indicator

 For this body language experience we will be at a table sitting across from a sexy lass, one on one.

 Hajime!

1.

You are talking about Skyrim, she doesn’t really play video games but you got onto the topic of reading and experiencing stories and you wanted to explain how this game is able to suck you into it. She is staring right at you and nodding. She does not interrupt you or ask questions. This is a sign she is interested in you. Girls do this because they are adamantly interested in hearing you talk. Maybe not so interested in Skyrim, but you ARE interested in Skyrim. And when they like you, they like when you are happy and having a good time. It’s that whole making you feel “Important” thing. They are giving you their attention.  

       Although you may want to tone your love for Skyrim down a bit

2.

This ones a bit tougher to notice but it’s a great indicator. People’s pupils dilate when they are looking at someone they are physically attracted too. For those without Google dilating means to get bigger. So if her pupils are big that means she finds you attractive. In fact it is also attractive to see someone with their pupils dilated. There was a study done where they doctored the photos of hundreds of women and dilated some of their pupils. Men would consistently rate the ladies with dilated pupils more attractive. Think of it like ambience. The lights get dim, both people’s pupils get larger, its “romantic”.

 Judging pupil size is difficult, and people’s pupils are changing size all the time. So there are a few tricks to catching whether it’s just really dark behind you versus she wants you naked. Draw her attention away to something other than you. Do it funny, so it’s natural and when she looks away and back into your eyes, watch her pupils. If they dilate, great sign. This happens fast so you might have to practice a couple times. Watch your friends who are in couples. Watch their eyes. It’s not awkward either, most couples when they hear about this like trying to see if it’s true. It’s a fun flirty thing.

 *Story*

I once asked a girl to stare off in the distance for a few seconds at a date. I then told her to look back into my eyes when I give the word. I gave the word, she looked back into my eyes and I watched her pupils dilate.

I then said “Your pupils just got bigger,”

and she replied, “So did yours,” and smiled.

3. 

Laughing is an easy one, but it’s not just the laughing you are looking for. When a girl is with a guy she likes, she tends to “regress” to middle school giggling. She’ll laugh at more things, find little things funnier, she will “giggle” more than laugh and her voice will get higher. Like those giggly friends that can sometimes be annoying or sometimes cute? Kinda like that.

 If you see her teeth more, (smiling no shit) that’s a good sign. Its more than smiling, its that soft smile left over after she smiled. Basically leaving her mouth slightly open when she is talking to you.

 Check any picture of a sexy model, most will have their mouths slightly open. It’s hot because it means the girl is turned on. Girls can use this too look sexier because she looks turned on. So she’s either trying to make you think she’s turned on or she is. Which, either way, that’s kinda interesting on a date.

I’ll hit up more for next time.

Seeya cats.

Jared

Wassup awesome people?

So last time was about more touch stuff but I keep running into this problem of writing huge long posts. So, in my quest to make my posts smaller, here’s a conversation I had with a friend of mine who wanted some girl advice.

Should you make the first move?

I always recommend you make the first move. This is regardless of whether this is a girl or a boy, or for making a friend whose pants you are uninterested in getting inside. Making the first move goes beyond relationships. It is because most of the time, the other person wants you to do it. It’s a weird human tendency that we are all afraid of rejection, so we don’t make the first move to avoid being rejected. But we really want the relationship to happen and hope the other person makes the first move. So we end up in this situation where both sides are waiting for the other to act. And often, the failure to act is perceived as distaste by the other and the relationship does not happen. So make the first move.

Courage in making the first move.

If you are afraid of taking that first step, here is some advice from my granddad. When I was in the 7^th grade I told him about a girl I liked in my French class, but that I was afraid to ask her out.

He told me “If you don’t ask, then her answer is NO,”

So being rejected is a lot like not asking at all. Both end in “NO”. So think of it like this. If you do not muster up the courage, it is like you are being rejected. This sounds kinda sad because it insinuates that to even have a chance at not being rejected we have to be strong and walk through fire.

I think, if you do muster up the courage, you transcend feeling rejected.

I’m still afraid of rejection. People don’t always see this. I am consistently told by people that they could meet people as easily as I do. (a motivation for me to blog actually)

But I am scared too. In fact, I use that fear to help me judge if I find the person attractive or not. The more scared I am of meeting them, the more important it is too me that I introduce myself. I’m more afraid of rejection, because I want to be accepted more.

 Now, if after all that mustering of courage you make that first move and she says no, this is where you transcend that rejection.

 Making the first move means YOU are a super badass. You beat your fear and made a human connection. Whether No or Yes you are powerful and people wish they could do, what you just did.

         True Story :)

You are pretty fucking awesome for pulling off making the first move and it is her loss for not taking you up on it.

See ya courageous people, 

Jared

Hey peeps!

I hope you all had a good Christmas! Totally got Skyrim, (Hells yeah!), and now I’m looking forward to the New Year.

 Alright last time we talked about how body language was super important. So for today and tomorrow I’m going to discuss some body language strategies centered around touching someone. Super dirty sounding, but that’s societies fault and has nothing to do with me. I’m just talking about a shoulder bump and an arm grab. Tomorrow or January 1^st I want to post a second part to this article about how a woman will use touch to convey how she feels about you. But first, ways for you, to flirt with touch (I’ll do my best to keep this clean).

 When in a conversation with a woman a small touch on their arm expresses a dominant and confidant person. To be honest, you won’t find me leaning in to touch a girl lightly on the arm unless I’m leading her somewhere (a slight pushing on the small of her back in the direction we are headed), or trying to get her complete attention (like when its loud, or I just want to talk to her ONLY and not the rest of the group). Hugs, dancing, grinding, I do all that too, but that’s a different ball game. I’m talking about other forms of contact in casual conversation.

 Now, leading a girl somewhere or getting her attention are totally great, but if you do it wrong you seem overly touchy and a little creepy.

 I’ve just begun to scratch the surface of how to use touch to be more attractive, and really it’s kinda weird. If you are charming and funny, being a little cocky and the like, then just make contact with the girl. Take her dancing, or tap her shoulder or arm to emphasize a point. It just ups your game. I have two examples below to explain out techniques I like to do, but really, an arm over her shoulder, pulling her in a little closer to whisper a secret etc., all work wonders if you got that whole witty confidence thing that I’ve talked about above.

                      “A little escalation means she REALLY likes you!”

 Example 1

She goes up to the bar and comes back with 2 drinks. Assuming I’ve already met her, you could go up and say,

“Hey! You didn’t even think to ask me for my order? How rude!”  (remember to smile and say this in a joking matter, don’t start a fight now) and then push her shoulder.

 She’ll say, “Oh you wanna go!” and shove your shoulder

 You “Hell yeah! Come at me bro” and then push both her shoulders.

 From here you got this great back and forth about who would kick whose ass. Perfect for jokes, questions, flirts, all my other posts.

 Here’s another great one. In a large group, a small group, or just you two (or three, you sly dog you!) walk up next to your targeted sexy lady, and bump into her shoulder with your shoulder. Kinda like when you walk into a friend and you sometimes bump into them. Then with that, swerve off (2 steps forward, 1 step back, remember that?) and go back into her. Make it obvious that you are doing this just to bump her. I like to make car or airplane noises when I do this, because I’m kinda immature.  But you don’t have to. Anyway, most ladies, will start weaving back and forth knocking into you.

 Now this isn’t going to make her fall in love with you. But if she hates you she’ll shout angrily at you to stop. But if she likes ya she’ll join in. And if she really likes you, she’ll keep it up after you stopped and be “prepared” for the next time you surprise her with the bump. Even to the point where she’ll keep watching you to see if you will. This is because she wants you to touch her again.

 Once when a girl was coming back to crash into me, I raised my arm that was on the same side and “caught her.” My arm was over her shoulder, it was super flirty and I left it there.

 I’ve also once held a girls hand because I “didn’t want it to get cold” she was more than happy to allow me to keep it warm.

 Warnings:

This is a balance thing. Creepy and Attractive touching is kinda fine line. A good analogy I’ve heard before is firewood in a house. You put too little in the fireplace and you are cold, you put too much and you burn the house down.

 Seeya soon!

Jared

Body language.

Hey peeps!

So yesterday was cool, I got myself another follower! quotesbyrelativcesofsamljackson thanks for hanging! Also, I have a blogger.com account tcsofdating.blogspot.com and I just received my first member there! Green, Blue, and Yellow sparrow, Wassup!?

Alright so last post I began to get into body language. Body language is huge; it is the most communicative of what happens in a conversation. Now speaking can condone specifics, like pick the blue wire, way more than body language (perhaps not interpretive dance). But things like, I’m proud, confidant, and I don’t care who knows it are best expressed through the way one holds himself (or herself lady readers).

Put yourself at a Christmas House party (it’s the season), leaning against a wall with a red plastic cup in hand half way filled with your favorite drink. Friends, acquaintances, and new people are meandering amongst the corridors of the house. You hear people laughing in the kitchen, its tiles reverberating sounds and making them louder. You smell gingerbread and see flickering red and green lights strewn about. The wall behind you is smooth and your feet sink into the soft carpet while low Christmas music mixed with popular hits plays on the speakers nearby. Mood is set, how are you set? Two bubbling girls walk past you, the girl in the red Santa hat is in a matching red sweater with white trim, her black hair spilling out over her shoulders and down her front and back. She’s in tight dark jeans with deep green socks. (I only describe her because she will be the  “target” the one you want out of the two)

“Hey!” you interject into their conversation.

They stop, and turn to look at you.

You are smiling, a smirk really, not a big photograph smile, but a little one. Like if you were watching something nostalgic, stupid, but still funny.

“Who are you?” you say.

“I’m Katy,” says the first.

“Diane,” says the one you want.

You lightly lift yourself off the wall, moving off of it straight, keeping your shoulders back, and allowing yourself to grow taller as you get up  (if you are shorter than them, still do this). Basically bringing their eyes upwards a bit to look at you, and once you are off the wall, step up to them too get a little closer.

Shake their hands, Look into the first’s eyes, “Pleased to meet you,” (pause here). Then go to the next “Pleased to meet you,” (pause here). And say to both of them “My name is (use your name here),” (pause here)

Then state “tell me about your socks,” to the sexy one and relax. Nice entrance!

Listen, and use key words with what she says next (There’s a Key Words post if you need to brush up.)  

This is a great way to enter. You start a conversation with two people (already a confident move). Coming off the wall and heading towards the girls shows you noticed them, liked them, and picked them to be the lucky ones to talk to you. There are arguments (and proof) that say if you ignore girls you will appear more attractive. This is another balancing thing, because if you just ignore them, then you will never talk to any. So I prefer the selection process because you talk to ladies, and keep yourself in check/control while doing it. Which is like ignoring but instead of ignoring them, you ignore the fact they are hot. Now remember that you are meeting them to make friends, not to stuff their stockings (Merry Christmas!). If you go farther and you really light their Menorah (I am all about inclusion!), then fantastic. But otherwise your goal is to meet them. This will alter your behavior to the girls, and they will note it.  

Okay, back to the body language, the lift off the wall and moving closer makes you grow larger, literally. Things that are closer are bigger. That’s a great effect, and as you move closer you show you are confident and not afraid of sexy, her friend, or their combined powers. The smirk–smile makes you more approachable and cuter. It looks like you see something funny but are keeping it a secret. This is sexy.

Maintaining eye contact is a really odd but enrapturing feeling. It makes your focus feel like you are really listening, listening past their words and to their motivations. Kind of like how in the movie Avatar the blue people would “see” eachother, and that was an expression of love. Now don’t stare creepily into their eyes and smile awkwardly. Feel free to blink, let your face relax, glance about the room every once in a while. Just maintain eye contact most of the time. Also whenever you return eye contact make sure to hold it for a few seconds.  You know how sometimes your eyes will meet some random person across the hall and you both glance away? It’s similar to that and in a conversation that is an unconfident thing to do. Don’t do it.

 Pink Hair: not a master of Eye contact. Blue Hair: Master of Eye Contact or more of an ass man.

In the case of the two girls, if they are both talking, make sure to look at the one speaking. Unless you are making a little comment to the other one, but quickly return back to the one speaking again. When you are speaking, speak and look to them both. Don’t just focus on the one you like. This split of attention is like that ignoring the girl thing. It has them compete for your attention a bit. This is that whole I’m really awesome thing.

Be a guiding hand in the conversation not an iron vice.

Example: You say something about the sexy girl’s socks, and then you ask her friends opinion about the socks. After hearing her opinion, you crack a joke about the socks and laugh with the not target girl. It is too poke fun at target sexy girl. After that, ask the sexy girl’s opinion on something, and listen. You then take her opinion, make another joke with it, and ask why she feels that way. Then move the conversation focus to the other girl. You keep the pendulum shift of the conversation back in forth amongst the people.

Now this isn’t a rule, it is an example. By making the girls compete for your attention as you move the conversation around it will make you appear more confidant and “Alpha male” type. However, you listen too. You are going to have to practice with this and pay attention to the flow of the conversation. Dominating a conversation is fine, but people like to be included. Ask questions, it includes everyone and people love to talk. This works in any conversation environment. Not just sexy Christmas party girl ones.

I went off track a bit, back to body language.

You are talking to a girl at a bar. You are leaning your back against the counter, elbows resting on it. A cute woman is next to you. You keep eye contact while she is talking; because your head is swiveled towards her and your body is pointed away (it is a perpendicular line). You joke, you smile, you chill, and you do all your normal stuff.

Remember the triad? This is narcissistic, because your body language is claiming she does not deserve your FULL ATTENTION. Perhaps later she will, but not yet. How weird is this? You are hearing everything she says, and you are still conveying you don’t care so much. If you really did, you would turn and face her straight on in a courting fashion. But you aren’t, because she hasn’t “earned” it. All said through your body language says.

You aren’t being too narcissistic by talking about yourself, but you are sending a subconscious signal to her that you aren’t interested. She’s not quite GOOD enough for you.

Now once she starts laughing more, and getting more involved with the conversation. Perhaps reaching to hit your arm (we’ll talk more about touching next time), and you find yourself liking who she is (not just what she is) then turn your shoulders too her. But don’t let the sexual tension go! Remember keeping the line tight? (if not check, Keep up the tension). You need to keep flirting, and poking fun. But she does get that reward. The two steps forward one step back kind of thing (once again, Keep up the tension).  Make the lady earn your interest, and then keep yourself under control to keep stoking the fire. If you are wondering when its ok to “make your move,” I’ll have more later. However, it’s like asking when a cake is ready. You won’t know until you practice some more.

Go out and have a crazy Kwanza

and

Happy Judeo Christian shopping season grasshopper!

Jared.

PS. So what you want to see next? If people don’t say a thing I’ll do, some stuff on physical touching, and how you can use that to see if she likes you, as well as use it to make her feel more attracted to you. And I may skip Christmas eve, and Christmas. However, I’m going to be at some non-family Christmas parties so I’ll be practicing. You should too! 

Wassup kiddos? So as promised, more stuff based off of the Dark Triad. As a heads up this won’t be as complete as a normal post, because this stuff here is based off the previous Dark Triad piece. And since that piece was getting serious I didn’t see this stuff working with it very well. So here’s the stuff I wanted to include that’s a bit more educational.

But before I get into it, shout out to my second follower magicdavon! Thanks a lot for following buddy!

Back to learning and here’s a recap, Dark Triad, Narcissism, Psychopathic tendencies, and Machiavellian personality

When being a little narcissistic, its actually you acting like a confidant guy. A confident guy knows he’s awesome. He will go up to any women and expect to make their night a little better. Why? Cause he’s Awesome!

He goes right up to a group of four women chilling on a couch and says

“Hi! I am making new friends, and you get to be them! I am Blake, who are you?” and will he wonder if they like him? No. Cause they totally will. And if on the off chance that they don’t, Thank God! Cause they totally suck and now he doesn’t have to worry about hanging out with them anymore.

When you actually do that line (I did it at Grimms, a bar in Seattle 2 weeks ago) it breaks the ice, instills a little humor into the meeting, and is a great neutral greeting. Now if you went up to the 4 girls and stuttered through this, looked at your shoes, looked at their shoes, looked at their chests, and/or slouched, It may not have been as successful. Your body language must also convey your confidence.

Think about a dude who thinks he’s the shit. How would he stand? Imagine your favorite cocky guy (be he douche, good friend, or me). How does he stand when looking in the mirror? Chest out and shoulders back or slouched and shoulders forward? A confidant person will subconsciously take up more space than a self -conscious person. It is similar to how super heroes stand. Hands on their hips and elbows jutting out with their feet wide apart. That’s KNOWN in science as a power stance and has been shown to increase testosterone. (http://www.psychworld.com/the-secret-to-getting-on-top-and-staying-there-2010-09)

I’ll get into it more at a later post. But too really get that cocky/confidant aura your body language is very important. In fact, one could say nothing, and allow their body language to communicate what kind of person they are, and women will pick it up. It works because what you say is only a small percent of what is understood. (http://englishstudyforvms.wordpress.com/2008/02/03/body-language-great-tips-to-improve-our-conversation/)

It’s mostly HOW you say something, rather than WHAT you say. I’ve only realy talked about the WHAT, because they can convey the powerful individual you are inside like the HOW. If you say,

“I look good,” and really mean it, really believe it. You’ll find yourself standing up straighter and speaking in a deeper tone whilst saying it.

        Left: Super Heroes, Right: Designates Male Restroom

Moving on to the next item.

The witty/poking fun that I advocate is a form of manipulation of your environment. If you are trying to play darts with some pretty redhead in a bar and you tell them,

“Hey! Come play darts with me,” *smirks*

 And she could reply

“I don’t really like darts,”

And you could say

“Oooooh, you worried? How’s this, I get you a drink if you have more than half my points, and otherwise you get me a drink,”

She “Nooo! Darts aren’t my thing”

You “Wow that worried? Tsk tsk darts are the best thing ever! I was hoping you’d be more classy!” *smiles*

She “I’m not classy if I don’t play darts?”

You “Here I’ll teach ya, that’s what friends do. Just remember to say thank you,”

You are persuading her to come play darts, now she may just not like darts and so instead you could go over and introduce yourself. Maybe she doesn’t like you and then you just leave cause she’s crazy, or maybe she’ll come on over and learn some darts.

No matter the outcome, you just manipulated and took control of a social situation to bring someone outside your social bubble, into it.

This is a Machiavellian style situation.

Psychopathic tendencies are actually the easiest to balance. It is in fact a romantic comedy cliché.

Him, “Let’s go to Rome,”

Her, “What, right now?”

Him, “Yeah!”

Her, “What, but I haven’t packed anything!”

Him, “Psh, I’ll buy you a toothbrush,”

Her, *swoons as camera pulls out*

It is an impulse behavior. And those with anti-social behavior are impulsive. However, I mentioned this exact example to a women saying that impulsive behaviors are attractive and did this whole Rome thing. And she swooned a little. She knew it was just an example and she swooned anyway.

When you walk up to a women at a bar, that’s a little “dangerous” the confidence won’t be lost on her. She’ll find it attractive. It will not guarantee a victory, but it helps.

Remember women are like a volume knob. To turn on, you must turn the knob up through various levels of intensity. The quieter the volume the less attracted she is to you. The higher, the more.

Walking up and smiling, saying your name, and introducing yourself. You turned the dial up to 3. Talk some more, flirt, and poke some fun, dial is now up to 5. Say something stupid, she calls you out, down to 4.5. You laugh it off, hell you are human, what human doesn’t make mistakes? dial up goes up to 7.

You combine everything and it just keeps turning up the dial till it’s so intense her body won’t stop shaking. :)

Alright grasshopper, there ya go.

Jared

PS. Announcements: I’ll be doing body language next time, unless you readers have a question. Just hit me up, let me know if you want your name included in the question and I’ll answer it. If it’s a great question I’ll make a post about it. 

Return post, Back in Black

Hey! Finals are a bitch and I had to pull out my pimp hand. And to make up for that I’m going to post every 2  days during these next two weeks because I got a lot to catch up on.

I totally got a follower,

Miss justkaitlyn, Shout out to you, Thanks for being the first!

Alright, so science is what I said I would talking about this time. Here ya go.

But, but, but,

Before I tell ya, remember my warnings about how this stuff can make you an asshole. If you do that you should jump into a high powered ceiling fan. This is why I warned you. The dark side is powerful, and here, I show you how to balance your dark and light together. BALANCE key word there.

Okay, shall we?

The techniques I have discussed are designed to create a psychological response in your, for lack of a better word, targets. The psychological response is based off of the “Dark Triad,” which are three human tendencies that don’t promote community and should have been bred out of society.

They stay, because they are sexually attractive.

Think about it, with bad boys or jerks they should be bad for civilization, but a saying like “Nice guys finish last,” still totally exists.

The three traits are, Narcissism, Machiavellian personality, and Sociopathic tendencies.

Now, these may seem terrifying, and also very different than what I advocate (which is right).

How can confidence, sense of humor, and wit be like that? Remember BALANCE, as I continue to explain.

1.     Narcissism. “Bad Boys” are the kinda guys who say, “Enough about me, what do you think of my shoes?” A really big ego. Making yourself out to be awesome. You know you are the fucking god of this place, and you act it. Alpha Male, is a great term for this idea.

2.     Machiavellian relates to intelligence: “Jerks” make fun of you. They point out your flaws, they make them known. They work to manipulate people to get what they want. They control conversations and they protect themselves with verbal armor.

3.     Sociopathic tendencies: Impulsive thrill seeking. A motorcycle, it’s dangerous and wild but fucking badass. Getting into fights because it makes you feel alive, badass.  

People who present these traits are noticeable, interesting even.

However, you should also know that some of these people suck. They don’t help out and only care about themselves. They are always competing and making you say how much better they are than you even when they didn’t really get a victory. They just like toying with people. It’s annoying, they push you down and hurt you to look good. They will ignore deadlines and go drinking the night before a job interview, push you around and try to fight you.

How can this be attractive? Check the Wing Girls for their example, Link is here

(http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d6FzeclcpLE&feature=sh_e_se&list=SL)

Here’s what the studies say (summarized)

Those individuals expressing these traits are more likely to have short sexual flings because they demonstrate powerful self-preserving instincts. So women would find that their DNA would create strong lasting human beings, which survival of the race is the name of the game. Not quality of survival, just survival.

Take note with what the Wing Girls mention (and if you didn’t just take my word on it), they talk about making these violent battle men into good members of society.

Is that not similar to what your mother told you to do with women? Open up the door for her, be polite, give her compliments, listen to her, comfort her, etc.  

I find that with the appearing dominant strong women culture (which is totally awesome btw, it’s brought in a new sexual wave) has created a push for men to be “nicer” and they lose lots of what women find attractive in a man.

And then those men out there who resist societies’ push and become the Dark Triad incarnate, then have women fall for them left and right and these girls don’t get it. They wonder why can’t a KIND man also be a hot bad boy?

So that’s what my stuff is based on. I did not know that this is what I was doing when I started studying human interaction and how to be persuasive, funny, and interesting. But around freshman year of college I heard of the triad and realized it was the “why” this worked.

I am a great guy. I am not ashamed to be proud of that. I go out of my way to be kind. I know how to express my appreciation for people. I know how to be patient with myself and others.

I’m fucking hot,

I’m wicked funny,

I’m not afraid to defend my honor and those close to me.

I live every day in a way that if I was to be surprised with death tomorrow, I’d be proud.

Look at how I describe myself, look how I studied the art of interacting with people, and look at how I live.

I’m balancing the Dark Triad.

I’ll have a few more lines tomorrow, and I’ll throw in an image too. Today was a bit more serious and I prefer not to make light of the importance of being a good person while you experiment with these traits.

See ya later Grasshopper

Jared

Google Dark Triad for fact checking, if  you are interested